Who’s Hanging Around You?

When you hear the word "charisma," what comes to your mind? The online Merriam-Webster dictionary says the definition of Charisma is:

1: a personal magic of leadership arousing special popular loyalty or enthusiasm for a public figure (as a political leader)
2: a special magnetic charm or appeal or the charisma of a popular actor.

Examples of Charisma are "The candidate was lacking in charisma" and "His success is largely due to his charisma." The Greek word for charisma is "favor" and "gift." Some people think you cannot define this meaning. They think it’s a gift at birth and not something you can learn. I disagree. I think it’s something you are taught along the way by reading, learning, and studying.

Ask yourself a simple question. Are people naturally attracted to you? What are some reasons from John Maxwell on why people will not follow you?

Cynicism – have you ever walked into a room with someone and you can’t wait to get leave? They are always in a hole and want to pull you down with them.
Pride – Someone that thinks they are better, more experienced than anyone in the room. You may even hear them boasting about a recent deal.
Perfect – This is the person that requires everything to be done perfectly. I can see this if you’re an airplane pilot carry 300 passengers, but even the landing is not always perfect.
Insecure – You’re not comfortable with your own skin much less others.
Moody – Are you going to be in a good mood today, and if so, will it change with the weather?
Insecurity - If you are uncomfortable with who you are, others will be too.

If you can avoid these traits, you’re likely to attract more people to your inner circle.


Wayne Bailey is a Distributor with SendOutCards. He has recognized tremendous growth in his personal and business relationships by implementing the strategies he talks about in his articles. You can email Wayne at wayne_bailey642@hotmail.com or visit: www.sendoutcards.com/waynebailey.